在我很小的时候我父母就离婚了，我小时候对他的记忆只有2次，一次是我小学时他来找我买糖给我吃，另一次是去参与婆婆的葬礼。老实说我完全对这位亲生父亲没有什么感情，我从小就是跟着妈妈还有现在的爸爸一起生活。 我也不知道哪里来的勇气，在25/11 的时候我鼓起勇气打电话过去找了我爸爸，这是我懂事以来第一次打给他应该有20 年了吧，当时我迟疑了半小时多看着电话号码在想我该不该打过去、打过去要说什么，一堆的杂音在我耳边...打去后我连爸爸都叫不出，开始问他这些年来好吗，我问他为什么那么多年没有打电话给我，他回答我说他怕我忙。我知道其实他怕我不要听他电话，这些年来他一直不知道我有没有怪他，他跟我说他对我感到愧疚，当时我不知道该说什么我转开话题.. 过后我就开始鼓起勇气约他见面... 那天和爸爸10 多年来第一次见面，很怕！我凭着小时候的记忆去找他，我没有忘记他的样子，他看到我后全程嘴边一直在微笑着直到我们见面完。第一次见面尴尬到不知道要聊什么，不过当时我感受到了他的喜悦和安慰，第一次见面我只说了我在上milestone 这个课。在第二次见面时，我是带着我一定要让我爸爸踏进课室的心情要我爸爸去上课，我不想他一直带着愧疚的心走完他一生，他现在还在单身着我知道里面一定有原因，我想让他找到他自己。间中他拒绝我说他不要上课，那么老了还上课干嘛，没有时间等等，我都帮他解决了，我用爱感染他，我让他看到其实我很想关心他，所以他报名了，而且还报名了DT87, 我刚巧second weekend ! 种种障碍都被我解决了，报名DT87 他是在waiting list 里的，我很担心他挤不进这班，一直在follow up 直到确认他走进课室我才放心。从距离很远的waiting list 到慢慢挤进第一位的时候，我是无比的兴奋紧张感动，我告诉自己可以的他一定可以进去而且我已经在想象当他毕业时候我们互相对望的那刻了！意向100% ！ 因为milestone , 让我鼓起勇气突破了，让我找回了那么久没有联系的爸爸，我要他也跟我一样过得很好。在这里我也体验到了爱要说出口，自己要成为源头，当自己愿意放下身段踏出去后，结果是自己完全想象不到的！我很骄傲我做到了！因为我的一个举动也许他的生活会不一样了！希望我的故事可以感染到你们，感召无处不在，没有什么是做不到的，坚持活出自己的誓约❤ JANE, Legacy 83
KENT LEE (L81)
我的PPG里其中一个是家庭关系，每个星期和他们吃饭相处3个小时，然后感召我爸爸妈妈。就在我爸爸10月17号生日的那天，我就成功感召了他们。妈妈上探索85班、爸爸上探索87班。那天我抱了我爸爸一次，虽然我看不到他的表情，但我老婆和阿姨说，你爸爸的样子是带点尴尬但是却很幸福的。 我爸爸是不善言辞的人，有什么事情都放在心里。而为我从来都没有走进他的心里，我对他有抗拒也有误解。28/11那天，我和他在家谈了两个小时，谈到我自己两个妹妹还有妈妈。他嘴巴说出来是不好听的，但是我却终于听到他心底的声音是担忧。34年来，第一次走进了他的心里。我对他说出我对他的感觉是怎么样的，为什么我现在会变成这样。我尝试把话说清楚让他走进我心里去了解我。然后我有问他，以前我那么叛逆，你那时是什么感觉。他说只能见步行步。过程中我一直忍住自己的眼泪，因为我体验到爸爸的牺牲。健康没了、把自己贡献给家自己却不敢对家人要求爱。我和他说为什么10多年前有一次住院，你因为心瓣问题呼吸困难自己办入院住了一晚出来我们才知道。我们是一家人，可是你却没有让我们去关心你。以后有什么事情请和我说，我会和你一起分担的。临走时，我要求了和他抱一起，那一次是我们两父子最后一次的拥抱。隔天我带他去治疗 带他去吃饭。我和他说，17/12你就退休了，到时候做很轻松的工作过过时间就可以了，家里我会照顾好的。等你病好了一点，我们一起去游泳。他笑笑和我说，好啊。 08/12那天，他打给我说他呼吸困难。这一次终于是我亲自带他去医院了，他不再是一个人去面对。我前一天买了我人生中的第一辆Merc，那天我用它载了爸爸。我陪爸爸在医院待了一整天做了检查，医生说目前的状况可以出院，可是如果感觉不舒服就马上回来。隔天早上我打电话问他，你感觉怎么样？他说还好，就和平时一样，有点不舒服，但是还可以，没什么大问题不需要入院。 10/12早上11am，他在平时工作的休息地方，安详的离开了。他离开时就像睡着了一样，当我们见到他时还在怀疑他真的离开了吗？ 在葬礼上他很多朋友有来，其中一个人是每天和他吃早餐的。他说你爸爸有什么都不讲的，总是放在心里，你爸爸有心脏病我们也不懂。但是你爸爸他说你最近很不一样，经常陪他们吃饭。心疼花了蛮多钱在外面吃饭，可是很好啦... 应该是生意做到不错了。然后听你爸爸说又买了新屋让他们年底搬进去。你爸爸发牢骚说那边那么塞车，以后上班就麻烦咯，可是没有办法啦你妈妈很喜欢，就迁就她啦。他说第一次听爸爸提起我。他真的是我爸的好朋友，因为他连我爸爸的语气和神态都如出一辙。他的那句话就好像爸爸亲口告诉我一样。我当下体验到那时他的心里其实是很甜蜜的。Danny问过我，你做那么多东西其实就是想证明给爸爸看的。那时我不承认。但亲自听了他朋友的话，我的心底感觉到没有那么遗憾，当下我才知道，yes我心底是很在乎爸爸的看法。感谢他的朋友把爸爸的话带给我，还和我说了很多爸爸的东西。 因为Legacy，我的senior和senior captain就像我的小天使一样守护着我。我的buddy们每一个人都给我打气加油。爸爸很疼我，他选择了在妈妈上完了legacy第一个周末才离开，让妈妈可以看到我毕业。因为他知道这是我想要的。我要荣耀的毕业，让爸爸妈妈看见。 我真的很感恩来到milestone，因为这个课程，因为legacy，让我可以对他关心和付出，让我走进他的心里。就算只有那么短暂的时间，可是至少我也有体验过。我的家人也因为这个课程变得不一样。感恩我遇到了你们所有人，因为你们每一个人的分享和努力都有贡献于我。我在这里嘉许我自己，让你们看到爱要及时。今天我想用我的分享贡献于大家。希望你们所有Legacy活出你们的誓约，尽100%的力量为生命为爱站出立场。 Kent Lee, Legacy 81
Self-taught intutive artist, Marketing and Communications Strategist, Business Owner
When I first heard about the Advanced Living Series, I was already pretty happy & strong, growing in my spiritual journey, having climbed out of a dark space called rock bottom and gone through a series of different, powerful experiential learning programmes, reading various books and learning from many teachers. I felt like I was healed but not quite whole, and I was seeking a deeper connection to some source of intuition or wisdom. After the Transformation Training I found what I was looking for, the courage and support that enabled me to resuscitate a passion that I had allowed to be suppressed for the longest time: Art. I broke out of my limiting beliefs which had kept me from seeing the monetisation of the outlet of my passion as a possibility. What’s really awesome is that I’m achieving all this by embodying the highest version of me in all these areas through my magical relationships, my strong, healthy and fit body, my ever-growing art and dance practice, and my various wealth and humanity-building businesses and investments. It has been a powerful and fun stretch and I am conscious that I can and am and will be who I am meant to be. My vision is a world of empowered people living authentically in love and joy, and enjoying the life of their dreams. My mission is to inspire and empower people towards that vision. I do this because I’ve been through many versions of “hell” and yet have been able to reinvent myself, and enjoy many more versions of “heaven” while still keeping my feet on the ground, so much so that there is no longer “heaven” or “hell”. If I can serve others through what I have learned and am learning, being who I have become and who I am becoming, that would be a meaningful path for me
Dato’ Jonathan Lim (L26), Alicia (L41)
CEO and founder of the MMG Group of companies and a partner in Mastercraft Design Group
A young lady named Wei Yei, sweet and gentle as she was, was quite persistent in getting me to enrol in the Advanced Living Series programme. She shared with me how I could actually have more time and enjoy living my life while creating great results. I was really curious and decided that I would find out how this could even be possible. As it turned out, it was! In the training, I learned the importance of acknowledging myself, and of appreciating the people who are with me in my success. This enables me, each time, to push my limits to win a even bigger goal. I took up corporate social responsibility for my business and worked at taking care of people who were in less fortunate circumstances. I initiated a movement called “#i3move”, which stands for a movement to “initiate, inspire and influence”. I can see there is so much that I can contribute. Just recently, I was nominated as one of Ten Outstanding Young Malaysians and earned a place among the 100 Most Influential Young Entrepreneurs 2016. We also became Dato’ Jonathan and Datin Alicia! Alicia and I - each having completed the training are now very close in our relationship. We have learned to communicate our thoughts openly and we can share freely whatever is in the depths of our heart. We appreciate every moment we have together and are committed to creating the experience of love between us. As I went through the training, I could see how important a role parents play in shaping the future of their children. I want our children to grow up to speak and share their thoughts freely and to be a leader in their own life. Meanwhile, I practise listening and patience when I am with them. Lastly, we have learned that by giving our love, support and contribution, we can make a difference to the people around us, to create an inclusive and caring society and from there, perhaps, having our country be that much better off. We want to continue to inspire and to share our love everywhere!
Yue Meng (L2)
I was the “bad” boy you would not want to bring home to introduce to your parents and I was proud of that! There were too many bad habits and attitudes to mention, that I had taken on to appear “manly” in the way I thought was the right way to be. What I learned from the Discovery Training is that the personality that I presented to the world was not who I truly was. It was an image carved out from my past experiences in failed relationships and heartbreaks. The biggest breakthrough came about when I revisited my heart and was reminded about what a loving man I really am deep inside, a caring son and a trustworthy friend. From the Transformation Training, I regained my personal power and began to make choices to live and show up as a loving, caring and trustworthy man. Four years after completing Legacy, I am now an entrepreneur, a husband and a father-to-be! My relationship with my parents has never been better in my 30 years of life. I have made new friends who challenge me to constantly improve on what I do and who I become, all the time, and they keep me on track to achieve my goals and I do the same for them. Life is no longer filled with the gloomy and dreadful prospect of just getting by. It is now filled with joy, with so much to look forward to. And it all started with my simple willingness to stop, look and see the possibilities available, and then choose anew, which means that I have the opportunity always to live the best version of me. For that I thank Milestone Trainings from the bottom of my heart, for here is where I found me again!
Looking back, I had been a people pleaser all my life, always going out of my way to please others, maintaining composure whatever happened so long as I could appear to be on top of things, so that others need not worry about me. However, when I didn’t receive the warmth and support from others when I needed it the most, I began to build a wall around my heart, afraid of being hurt and, over time, it became difficult for me to show my love. All this, with an underlying fear of losing control, of unexpected and unpredictable situations, of confrontation with people, with myself. The Discovery Training was very liberating as I began to see, for the first time in a long time, the possibilities available to me to achieve my goals, even with the ever present fear that seemed to follow me. I saw that I was living as if I were a victim of my own life. I operated and lived through life as though I did not have freedom or choice. When I chose to leave the victim behind, it became possible to live responsibly and powerfully. It was in the Transformation Training that I had a new experience of love, vulnerability and courage. When I began to take down that wall around my heart, willing to risk being hurt, I found an immense joy that I thought I had lost forever. I learned that each life is precious and has a purpose, including my own. I had ignored who I am, what I am meant to create in my life and I had forgotten my ability to love. I had put everyone else before me because I wanted them to like me. I didn’t believe they would love me for me. I didn’t believe in myself. When I think of my experience in the Transformation Training, the words that come to mind are that “love is only a word until I give it away”. Soon after my adventures in Legacy, I made a decision to join Milestone Trainings as a full time staff because I had found a platform that allows me to realize my vision for the world. I want to be a part of the process of having each person live up to their fullest potential and to fulfill the purpose of their life. All of us can play a bigger game in our lives, yet we are held back by fear and doubt, things we make up in our minds. I believe that this world can be a brighter place as we choose to be the light, the source of love and empowerment, which can overcome even the darkest hour. No fear! This is how I will make my life count! Yasha, had been in customer service in the multi-level marketing industry for 6 years, where she learned how to solve problems for and communicate with all kinds of people - the good, the bad, the ugly. She later spent 2 years as head of human resources, and personal assistant to the CEO, of a construction machinery company. Yasha has since joined the Milestone Trainings team in a role where she continues to thrive, “doing whatever it takes”! She confesses to be a coffee addict who finds her Zen moments in origami.
Eric Tan (L27)
Business Owner in the Agricultural Industry.
The process in Discovery was both eye and mind opening and I found myself revisiting the area that I had taken for granted and forgotten - to feel and to decide with my heart. It became possible for me to address that “judgmental” side of myself that was harsh and not able to listen, and to become more vigorous and conscious with my behaviour and my actions. My relationship with my family has since been improving continuously and my life has become purposeful and focussed on all the right things. It is really a ‘wow’ for me to have gained insight and a heightened awareness on things about myself, the conversations in my head, the constant drift I am in, and to become more rigorous in making decisions and choices, as well as seeing options that I never thought I had before. Of course, there are still times when I jump into making some decision but I am so much more able to pause and self-check before I blurt out or act on anything that I might regret later. And so, I continue to learn, and to Discover…
Daniel Lo (L6)
My name is Daniel Lo. I am 45 years old, a father of three, serving as a Special Officer to Senator Datuk Paul Low, Minister in the Prime Minister’s Department. In the world there are an estimated 27 million modern-day slaves. Yup! Imagine that! Just about as many people as there are living in Malaysia - all working and living as slaves. I faced huge challenges, working with an NGO to combat human trafficking. There were too many people to help, too many complications and just too few people working on the problem and not enough money. But that didn’t stop me. With all my mind and all my heart I gave it a 100%, yet every time, there were shortages and failings. I don’t think that I was being too hard on myself because deep down, I felt that there was something missing. I felt that I had greater potential that I wasn’t accessing. It was like there was a super mutant power that I had but couldn’t get in touch with. I needed a Professor Xavier to help me. I ended up joining the Discovery program first and then the Transformation and also the Legacy program. It truly lived up to their names - I discovered so much about myself. It was as though I was a stranger to myself all this time. My life - ME! - became exciting. This was a great introduction to go on and really do some work and transform myself and then to produce a legacy of which I could be proud. The Legacy part of the program is effectively 100 days of personal coaching with the support of your team. They will kick your butt and make sure you produce the results which you want. Whilst there were parts of my Chinese brain which said, “Aiyoh! Why so expensive?” I knew it wasn’t because there is no other program which can provide that kind of personal coaching for that price. It was like, “No need to think one! Actually, it is so cheap!”. Any other personal coaching program for 100 days would be tens of thousands of ringgit.
From a bus ride leading to a new horizon
- Bevan Taylor (Legacy 13)